Multiple 6s in a relationship reading - and does the Tower count as a 6?

Selene_Blackwood

I wanted to share a tarot experience from a few months back and get your takes.

A bit of background: earlier this year I was in a messy spot with a guy who’s also one of my best friends. We both thought we wanted more, but things went sideways and I got pretty hurt by how he handled some personal stuff. I had just started learning tarot then, so I was really new to reading.

Because the situation was on my mind all the time, I kept pulling cards about it. I know people warn against asking the same question over and over, but I was new and honestly kind of desperate, so I asked slightly different questions, like:

“Can our friendship survive this?”
“What happens if I keep him in my life instead of cutting him off?”

I stuck to one question and one card a day. I didn’t keep a journal, but I remember the sequence clearly:

Six of Wands
Six of Cups
Six of Pentacles

I never pulled the Six of Swords, which seemed notable since that one often shows up around moving on. At the time I knew those 6s felt pretty positive, which surprised me because I was pretty upset with him.

Later I read that some people see repeated 6s in relationship spreads as pointing to soulmate-type connections, and that idea grabbed me since this was emotionally intense.

Eventually I asked the question I’d been avoiding: “Is there a real possibility for us to have a healthy relationship?” I pulled The Lovers, which also connects to the number 6.

Fast forward to now: after lots of conversations we’ve worked things out and recently started seeing each other. I pulled a card to ask what to expect in the near future and got The Tower. At first that felt alarming, but it made sense since he’s going through some big upheaval right now. Still, it got me thinking about numerology. I’ve seen lists that link the Tower (16) to 6-related symbolism, but by numerology 16 reduces to 7.

So I’m curious what others think:

Do you read repeated 6s in relationship spreads as meaningful or tied to love/soulmate energy?
Would you ever count The Tower (16) as part of a “6 pattern,” or do you strictly reduce it to 7?

Would love to hear how you interpret this kind of thing.

Marcus-Ellington

From a numerology angle, 6s are usually about balance, acceptance, and integration.

A lot of folks automatically read The Lovers as a soulmate card, but that’s a common misconception. On its own it doesn’t have to mean “soulmate.” Most readers want to see other supportive cards in the spread - Two of Cups, Four of Wands, Ten of Cups - before leaning that way.

If you look at the Rider-Waite-Smith Lovers, it actually mirrors the Devil in a neat way. There’s a masculine/feminine dynamic, but the directions they face matter: the woman looks to the angel or spiritual guidance, the man looks toward the woman, and the angel looks down at them. That creates a kind of loop, which ties back to balance, integration, and awareness.

About the numbers, you’re right: The Tower is 16, so it reduces to 7 (1+6=7), not 6. The Major Arcana card that reduces to 6 is The Devil (15 → 1+5=6).

The Tower usually points to something intense or life-changing, a shake-up that tears down an unstable structure. It can feel dramatic, but it’s part of a bigger process. After the Tower comes The Star, which brings healing, hope, and renewal - the idea being that collapse can clear space for something better to grow.

Also worth remembering: even a strong soul connection isn’t automatically healthy or meant to last. Sometimes your paths cross in meaningful ways and there are lessons for both people, maybe more than once.

Kieran

For me, 6s are about harmony - giving and receiving and trying to find balance. The Lovers doesn't automatically mean soulmate. It's more about choices and whether things line up, especially with the other cards in the spread.

The Tower, when it comes through as a 7, leans toward sudden change and upheaval. It's intense, but it can clear space for growth and something better, like the Star showing up afterward. And a soul connection isn't automatically perfect or easy; it usually just means there's a deeper lesson or stronger energy between you.