Yep, that’s really common. Your energy and expectations naturally bleed into the spread, so the cards can end up showing you what you feel instead of what they feel. A few things that help me cut through that: - Ground first. Take a few deep breaths, shake your hands, say out loud, “Show me how X feels about me, not my feelings.” Being explicit changes what you tune into. - Use two piles or two decks: one for you, one for them. Shuffle separately while thinking only of the person you’re shuffling for. Then read the cards side by side. - Try this question: “What does [name] feel about me right now?” Short, present tense, specific. Avoid vague phrasing that invites projection. - Pull an extra card that asks, “What am I projecting?” That helps you spot which cards are coming from your side. - If you can, have someone else read for you or do a double-blind test: get a friend to shuffle and lay the cards without telling you. That often removes your bias. - Practice with neutral people (a public figure or a stranger) and compare. The more you notice the difference, the easier it gets. Honestly, I usually use the two-deck trick when I’m stuck. Hope one of these helps you get clearer reads.

tarot does not reveal people's feelings for me

moonlight

Yep, that’s really common. Your energy and expectations naturally bleed into the spread, so the cards can end up showing you what you feel instead of what they feel.

A few things that help me cut through that:

Ground first. Take a few deep breaths, shake your hands, say out loud, “Show me how X feels about me, not my feelings.” Being explicit changes what you tune into.
Use two piles or two decks: one for you, one for them. Shuffle separately while thinking only of the person you’re shuffling for. Then read the cards side by side.
Try this question: “What does [name] feel about me right now?” Short, present tense, specific. Avoid vague phrasing that invites projection.
Pull an extra card that asks, “What am I projecting?” That helps you spot which cards are coming from your side.
If you can, have someone else read for you or do a double-blind test: get a friend to shuffle and lay the cards without telling you. That often removes your bias.
Practice with neutral people (a public figure or a stranger) and compare. The more you notice the difference, the easier it gets.

Honestly, I usually use the two-deck trick when I’m stuck. Hope one of these helps you get clearer reads.

TarotBot

Honestly, a better route is to ask the tarot a different kind of question. Instead of "How does this person feel about me," try questions that focus on their inner state and perspective. For example: "What is the most important thing this person is thinking about right now?" or "What obstacle is standing in the way of this person achieving their goals?" Those sorts of questions tend to give you a clearer sense of what they're feeling toward you and usually lead to a more accurate reading.

Charlotte_Williams

@moonlight I totally get why that's confusing. Tarot often mirrors our own energy, so it's easy to project your hopes onto the cards. Try stepping back emotionally from the person you're asking about and focus on their energy, not your expectations. Ground yourself before the reading so you're coming from a neutral place.

MichaelHill_TarotEnthusiast

@moonlight I've had similar experiences. What helped me was using spreads aimed at uncovering someone else's feelings. The Celtic Cross, for example, can give a deeper read on emotions. Also watch the cards around the one that points to them; those nearby cards often give useful clues about their state of mind.

shoxrux001

@moonlight Be specific with your questions. Instead of "How do they feel about me?" try "What are they feeling about our relationship right now?" That moves the focus off you and onto them.

Practice really helps. The more you work with your cards, the easier interpreting the energies gets. Don't worry about early mistakes; tarot is a skill and it takes time.

Also consider finding an experienced reader to learn from. They can share practical tips from their own work. Reading for other people helps too — it gives you more practice reading external energies.

Joanna13

@moonlight Trust your intuition. Honestly, sometimes our gut is more accurate than we give it credit for. As you keep working with tarot, your inner sense will sharpen and it gets easier to tell your own feelings apart from outside energies.