the Hermit Card in the context of someone's feelings

GraceM · 2024-01-08T10:18:58+00:00

Discover what the Hermit card means for his feelings toward her in a romantic reading: mentor, solitude, guidance or quiet affection.

GraceM

I've been finding the Hermit tricky when it comes to someone's feelings. When it shows up in the "How he feels about her" spot, I can't pin down a clear message. My first thought is he might feel there's a lot to learn about her, or he notices a loneliness around her. The Hermit doesn't read as overtly romantic — it comes off more like mentor, guide, teacher, or advisor energy. He seems to see himself as someone who can support her growth or help her learn.

I did consider the Hierophant briefly, but the Hermit brings a different vibe and makes me unsure about romantic intent.

Any thoughts or takes on this would be really helpful.

kiprikolesea78

GraceM
Sometimes in a relationship you just need to step back and have some alone time to really think things through. Romantically, that can mean she’s on his mind and he needs space to figure out what to do next. The Hermit is about not rushing into things and doing deep, solitary reflection.

Joanna13

Zena_Aquarte
I agree with your first paragraph, but I don't totally see the second and third the same way. Being a hermit can be temporary, both historically and psychologically — it doesn't have to be a lifelong thing. In that phase someone might not be focused on romance; they could be searching for something else and need solitude. It can also come from feeling alone, like missing someone or not connecting with the person they're with now. That doesn't mean they're permanently withdrawing from social life or never going to be open to romance again. For me, the Hermit has shown up during crises and times I had to step back and figure out a new direction, but I haven't stayed in the cave forever 😉

The Hanged Man, to my mind, is either someone stuck and stagnant or someone deliberately trying to see things from a different angle.

If you're reading the Hermit for how someone feels about a girl, along with the other meanings you've gotten, GraceM, it can point to a kind of loneliness whether she's around or not. Other cards will help give a clearer picture.

TarotBot

Hermit in a love reading really depends on the person and the situation, so there’s no one-size-fits-all meaning. It can mean someone feels mentor-like toward their partner — like they want to be a guide, teacher, or steady support. It can point to sharing wisdom and wanting to take the time to really get to know the other person.

It can also show comfort with quiet, inward reflection and the strength to walk solo when needed. On the flip side, it can show vulnerability and a willingness to be guided, plus an understanding that good relationships take time and work to grow. In short, in a romantic context Hermit often points to deep thoughts and feelings that need to be explored before the couple reaches greater clarity.

MichaelTh159

Distinguishing feelings from actions is key. Actions are about digging into specifics, like what she's doing, the situation around her, and other related details. Honestly, emotionally, if he's the Hermit, that already says a lot about his inner state, so what more do you really need?

Charlotte_Williams

I'd guess he just wants solitude from her. The Hermit being a Major Arcana makes that need feel pretty non-negotiable.🌌

coffeeMMM

He might care for her from afar. He's dealing with his own stuff and just can't seem to come out of his shell. Hard to say if it's unrequited since he keeps his feelings to himself. His quiet, mysterious vibe just makes him even harder to read.

Zena_Aquarte

I've always thought of the Hermit the way Robert Frost put it: someone who "had a lover's quarrel with the world" and just walked off into a cave away from society. To me that retreat could be because of a romantic falling-out with one woman or with several. Traditionally I never tied the Hermit to women or romance.

I also figured once a hermit withdrew, they usually didn't come back. They stayed in their cave or shack and only got found by lost travelers who happened upon them. Or the hermit might run into barely alive strangers and nurse them back to health, which feels more like the old witch or hag in the woods.

The idea of leaving to contemplate and then returning? That always felt more like the Hanged Man.

GraceM

Thanks so much for the insightful answers. I really appreciate the time and effort you put into sharing your knowledge — it means a lot! 💖

AntonTaro

The Hermit on a quest for the alchemical egg — in love readings that often comes across as him hunting for a very specific kind of relationship or a particular woman. If he feels she’s what he’s been after, he’ll be over the moon to have finally found that connection. If she doesn’t fit his criteria, it usually means she’s not the sort of partner he’s looking for romantically. 🌟

MariiaMelnyk

In my experience, this card often points to the other person feeling lonely when they’re apart from their counterpart. To me it shows they take the relationship seriously and think about it a lot. I don’t agree with reading it as disinterest — usually it’s the opposite. Other cards in the spread can change the picture, though. Just my opinion! 😄

HarperHere

For me this card reads like the other person is feeling lonely without their counterpart. I get a real, sincere commitment and a lot of heavy thinking about the relationship — not disinterest. They seem genuinely invested and serious. Still, you need to look at the other cards in the spread to be sure. This is just my take. 😊🌟