If you pull the 4 of Pentacles to understand someone’s feelings for you, would you interpret it as them feeling possessive of you or thinking that you’re the one being possessive? I’m struggling with how to read this card in the context of possessiveness and insecurity. Is it that she feels possessive, or does she think I’m the one who is?
I specifically asked, "How does she feel about me?"

The 4 of Pentacles often represents taking pride in something you’ve achieved and enjoying the security that comes with it, but it also carries a note of caution, which is clearly reflected in the card’s imagery. Holding on too tightly to something can lead to possessiveness and a reluctance to let go.

Over the years, I’ve often heard the saying, "If you’re not willing to let something go, you’ll never truly have it." I’d take this card as a reminder to be mindful of how much you’re focusing on this person and aim for a healthy balance in the relationship.

Rather than relying solely on the traditional book meaning, I’d suggest breaking the 4 of Pentacles down into its elements. The number four is often linked with stability, and pentacles are typically connected to material matters and the home or family. I’d interpret their feelings as being centered around the idea that you represent stability in their life, potentially as part of a secure family or home environment.

I always interpret tarot from the querent’s point of view. In this case, I’d see it as you not getting what you need from the other person, which might be making you feel the urge to control their feelings or setting your expectations too high about how they “should” be expressing themselves toward you.

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