That's precisely the point. She exudes sensuality and allure. I didn't mean to suggest that you were dissatisfied; rather, I meant that your ex-partners might have perceived an inability to fulfill your desires.
In my experience, individuals typically fall into one of four categories when it comes to seeking a relationship:
- Some desire a partner who takes charge—someone who makes decisions takes initiative, and possesses greater intelligence. They enjoy playing the role of a "cheerleader," supporting and loving a partner who acts as their "hero."
- Others seek a more casual partnership. They prefer a relationship where both individuals lead separate lives, occasionally coming together. Some even embrace the idea of spouses living separately or spending significant time apart.
- There are those who seek an equal partner intellectually, in ambition, and with shared interests. They aim to collaborate closely, forming a dynamic duo, either as tightly connected allies or as complementary yin and yang.
- Some individuals prefer the opposite of category 1. They seek a partner who may not be as intelligent, strong, or financially successful. They enjoy being the provider and decision-maker, with their partner admiring and praising them as the hero.
When encountering individuals from category 4, they may have reservations about a woman who is both sexual and sensual. They want to be the one guiding and shaping their partner, preferring her to be shy and inexperienced, allowing them to lead the way in her development into womanhood.
Therefore, the Queen of Pentacles, being inherently sexual and sensual, might unsettle some men. They desire a woman they can instruct and influence, not someone who may take charge or assess their performance.
If you've previously chosen partners who sought your admiration for their sexuality and wished to impart their knowledge to you, then your own sensuality could have posed a threat to their expectations.