the Queen of Pentacles about their feelings

OliviaBr

I've been asking my deck about various exes' feelings for me during our relationships, mostly out of morbid curiosity and boredom. Weirdly, I kept pulling the Queen of Pentacles every time, even when I totally expected Cups. Same thing happened when I asked about someone's current feelings. What do you think the Queen of Pentacles means here?
Note: I was using the Fey deck.

zfy87060

I see this a lot too. I read it as them feeling safe and secure with you, like they're nurtured, reassured, and looked after. They don't seem worried about anything involving you, trusting you'll take care of things. There's a laid-back, easy energy in the connection, which isn't necessarily bad. At the same time, there's a maternal angle - like they lean on you to fill a caretaker or "mother" role.

MichaelTh159

Maybe their emotions felt as cozy and familiar as a well-worn pair of boots. 😉

Joanna13

Could mean they felt financially responsible for you. To be clear, that doesn't mean you were asking them for money. More like they saw you wanting a steady home and a provider who could take care of you and indulge you.

They probably also thought of you as nurturing, with good taste, someone who could handle practical stuff, like finances, decorating, cooking.

So they might've felt insecure about meeting what they believed you needed, or pressured to provide beyond their means. That's about their feelings, not necessarily the reality. On the physical side, they may've worried they couldn't satisfy you, even though you probably satisfied them plenty. 😅

GraceM

Joanna13
Why would it be the negative side of the Queen here, like that I was somehow dissatisfied? I always pictured the Queen as sensual and sexy.

OliviaBr

I appreciate the clarification. If the Queen of Pentacles keeps showing up as their feelings for you, they probably saw you as nurturing, steady, and someone who brings comfort and security. Being around you likely felt easy, cared for, and emotionally supported. It can also mean they viewed you as reliable and dependable, and that you brought a warm, stable energy to the relationship. 🌷

Joanna13

GraceM
That's exactly it. She radiates sensuality and allure. I wasn't saying you were unhappy - I meant your exes may have felt they couldn't meet what you wanted.

From what I've seen, people usually fall into four relationship types:

Those who want a partner to take charge, make decisions, push things forward, and often seem the smarter one. They like playing cheerleader to a partner who acts like their hero.
People who prefer a looser arrangement. They keep fairly separate lives and come together intermittently. Some even like the idea of living apart most of the time.
Folks who want an intellectual and ambitious equal, someone to collaborate with closely - a true duo, either tightly matched or balancing each other like yin and yang.
Those who want the opposite of group 1: they prefer a partner who’s less dominant or accomplished. They enjoy being the provider and leader, with the other person admiring them.

Guys in group 4 can get uneasy around a woman who is openly sexual and sensual. They want someone they can shape and guide, someone a bit shy or inexperienced so they can lead her into womanhood.

So the Queen of Pentacles, being sensual and grounded, can throw some men off. They want to be the instructor, not feel sized up. If your past partners expected admiration for their sexuality and to teach you, your own sensual confidence might have felt threatening to them.

schwalB88

Lately the Queen of Pentacles keeps showing up in my personal readings, always reversed. It's pointing to my ex-wife - she was pretty obsessively materialistic.