Hey yall. I just did a general 3 card spread and need some insight. I recently got out of a 2 year relationship and it was the first real, serious relationship of my life. This person really got to know me fully, and that's never happened before. We broke up in April and I asked about a month ago if he wanted to get back together. He said it didn't work for a reason but still wanted to remain friends. We're still extremely close and hang out all the time, but I've started going on dating apps again and met someone that I'm pretty excited about. I'm worried he won't understand the friendship between me and my ex. Anyways, I asked the cards to give me some insight on the general energies of my dating life so that I could reflect upon them and hope to get guidance from my higher self. I pulled the 9 of wands, Judgment reversed, and the 10 of cups reversed. The Tower fell out at the beginning of the reading and the bottom card is the Page of Swords. I've got a few ideas of what this could all mean, but wanted to ask for your help. Thanks a bunch!

<3 taylor

Hey Taylor! Looks like you’ve pulled some powerful cards, and each seems to bring some guidance as you step into this next phase.

Starting with the 9 of Wands: it shows a bit of lingering guardedness—maybe from your recent breakup or just a stronger emotional resilience. This card suggests keeping some defenses up, but it’s also reminding you that you’ve grown a lot through everything you’ve been through. You’re more cautious now, which makes sense, but it’s encouraging you not to let past hurts hold you back from new possibilities.
Then there’s Judgment reversed, which hints at possibly struggling to fully move on or find closure from the past. Since you’re still close to your ex, this could be nudging you to think about how to approach the friendship while keeping the future open.
The 10 of Cups reversed often speaks to re-evaluating emotional expectations. Maybe you’re thinking about that “happy ending,” but it’s suggesting that right now, it might be more about finding balance within yourself rather than rushing into anything new. This card invites you to consider what you want without needing to idealize any specific outcome.
Now, the Tower as a jumper really stands out—it suggests some transformation is happening, maybe even a shift in how you view love or handle relationships. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing; sometimes, it’s just a necessary change that clears the way for something more genuine.
And with the Page of Swords at the bottom? That’s all about staying curious, exploring new ideas, and being open-minded. It encourages you to go into your new dating life with honesty and openness, which is key in building trust with this new person and balancing your friendship with your ex.

In a nutshell: Stay mindful, keep it real, and let go of anything that’s no longer serving you. Hope this helps, and good luck on your journey! 😊

    Your cards definitely suggest you’re stepping into a fresh start but might still have a few past feelings to work through. Here’s the rundown:

    1. 9 of Wands: You’re strong and resilient but also cautious. Try to keep healthy boundaries without closing off new possibilities.
    2. Judgment Reversed: This one hints that it’s time to let go of lingering judgments or attachments to fully move forward.
    3. 10 of Cups Reversed: Think about what true fulfillment means to you now, instead of holding onto old ideals.
    4. The Tower (Jumper): Be open to change, and think about how your close friendship with your ex might influence new relationships.
    5. Page of Swords: Stay curious and honest as you dive back into dating.

    in conclusion: set clear boundaries, stay open-minded, and embrace this new chapter!

      Zena_Aquarte

      Thank you so much for this reading. I'm particularly moved by the meaning you gave to the 9 of wands. I think you hit the nail on the head (no pun intended as he's wearing a bandage on his head lolol) as to where my head and my heart are during this time in my life. Your insight into the 10 of cups reversed gave me something I hadn't thought about before, so I thank you for that as well. I agree the Tower stands out! I've learned to love the card though. All in all just some really great advice/insight and I'm taking away things that I wouldn't have been able to find myself <3

        GraceM

        Wow thank you! You really said so much in such a succinct way. I appreciate your approach to giving advice with each card, it's so helpful. Your insight into the 10 of Cups Reversed really changed my original thinking when I pulled the card. Thank you again! <3

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